one fucking thing after another
Friday, July 18, 2008
Ok, so I am at work last night, and I was being inundated with bullshitty things that, though small, were cumulatively working to put me in a very bad mood. Just one little thing after another.
And then, just when I see my cell ringing and I think I am going to get some relief from the one person who I can reasonably expect it from, Superwife calls and immediately picks a fight with me about how this one person who I started the same day as is now my boss, and how much it pisses her off that I am not more aggressive at work. And then she hung up on me. Fucksakes, that one put me over the top. Truth be told, I am still mad about that one.
It just served to remind me that at the end of the day, as supportive as sheusually is sometimes is used to be, I am really out here on my own. Good thing I occasionally think everyone else is in my head, or I might get depressed.
EDIT Ok, so now that I have gotten some perspective, I know I am not at all on my own. And if Superwife can put up with me for the litany of shit that I don't talk about, she should be entitled to rain on my parade once in awhile.
And then, just when I see my cell ringing and I think I am going to get some relief from the one person who I can reasonably expect it from, Superwife calls and immediately picks a fight with me about how this one person who I started the same day as is now my boss, and how much it pisses her off that I am not more aggressive at work. And then she hung up on me. Fucksakes, that one put me over the top. Truth be told, I am still mad about that one.
It just served to remind me that at the end of the day, as supportive as she
EDIT Ok, so now that I have gotten some perspective, I know I am not at all on my own. And if Superwife can put up with me for the litany of shit that I don't talk about, she should be entitled to rain on my parade once in awhile.
posted by raistlinsghost at 7/18/2008 07:02:00 AM
3 Comments:
You're not on your own. What's going on with her that she is lashing out at you? She probably is stressed about something and she's taking it out on her safe target.
I used to get annoyed with Glen. I used to think that I'd be married to a University Professor. He's a genius. Seriously. Loves physics and chemistry. Is a big geek to the bone. Unfortunately he is happy as a pig in shit fiddling with engines (Applied physics and chemistry). He doesn't have the patience to finish his degree (dual major in Phy and Chem). Instead he is quite happy being a mechanic in the military. If they happen to promote him, ok, if not, thats OK too. He's very nonchalant about that stuff. It took me a VERY long time to stop harping on him and realize that he finds other things important. Like our family, spending time with the girls etc. We've talked about this a lot and he said that he never wants to be that dad working 60 hours a week to give his family more financial rewards but never see them.
Oh, and your comment made me LMAO, thanks.
Thanks for the comment Jen.
Superwife was lashing out at me because we have been having some money troubles and because I am the one working while she stays home. So it burns her ass that I don't either take or seek opportunities to move up when she can do nothing herself. I know that it is frustrating for her. But like Glen, I have way more important things to worry about than work. Cause no one looks back at their life after retiring and says 'Gee, I wish I had worked more'.
That being said, I was also being a whiny self-absorbed jerk. I am usually in a very calm place, and it takes a lot to rile me. But every once in awhile my calm erodes to reveal the dickhead underneath. Las night was one of those.
And glad to help out with a laugh. That's (clearly) what friends are for, virtual or otherwise.
Ah yes, the number one cause of marriage woes.
What about her starting a business? There are a heck of a lot of opportunities out there right now for the right kind of market. Are there crafts she enjoys doing (to sell at farmers markets?), would she be interested in doing something with direct sales, Sunset Gourmet for instance is a new company that is expanding east. There are only THREE consultants east of the Manitoba border, and two are in NS. I'm one of them. :) I couldn't pass on the opportunity of being on the ground floor of a new company.
Or what about child care? Would she enjoy doing before/after school care or even taking in one or two kids during the day?
I've been in her boat. I've felt that frustration. For me, I had to realize that it wasn't 100% Glens job to bring in income, that I could bring in something too.
Glen used that same line about retiring. So true.
And it's OK to be a dickhead once an a while, otherwise you'll explode.
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